A Life Shared with a Twist of Dysfunction

Growing up in a single parent home must have been a struggle for my Mother. I always thought that she must have cried herself to sleep at night many times in her life. I can now say that her life was less of a struggle, in that she was around a supportive family of Brothers and Sisters. I feel that in ones mind we create and recreate situations, trying desperately to redefine and rediscover our own personal identities. Pulled down by others, in what feels, appears to be a dysfunctional family.What are the boundaries? Have we set and kept them and are those boundaries kept with the toxins in our lives; the toxic people that can knock us down at a moments notice with simple a few negative words? Do you today, even know who those toxic people are in your lives? Growing  up is hard enough, however to have to start all over at the ages of 20 and 30 makes it much more difficult in that we are, "Re-learning," and "Revisiting," who we truly are in life as individuals. Toxicity comes in many shapes, forms,and sizes in life and can tear a spirit and soul in half, if you are not truly careful in your lives.  No one is at fault or in the wrong in a dysfunctional family. Maybe I, just as yourselves possibly, was chosen so that I may share my thoughts and visions with you in my new book; this book I started a few days ago which will possibly be titled, "A Life Shared with a Twist of Dysfunction." I was recently compared to someone that had fallen in a dark hole yet my friend Nyla could see my eyes. She knew I was in a rut and would find my way out, (hence throwing me a rope as well so that I could climb out of the hole), which I always do in life, no matter what the struggle. I am a survivor, not a victim in my life. I am solution-oriented, not problem-oriented. There is a definite difference in the two of those--problem oriented OR solution oriented. I was working my way through something; most of my life has been spent working through or towards something in life. I seemed to be that girl that was working on being someone my parents would be truly proud of and I can remember my father's visits like they were yesterday. I wanted to scream,  "Hear me! See me! Tell me how great you think I am, Dad! Talk about me like you talk about total strangers at a bar." I felt like I did not measure up in his eyes all my life; to his expectations. I was truly blessed to have those last four years with him, when we spent ample time together, getting to know each other and bonding with him. He kinda knew me, however never as well a s my Mother.  Mother heard my illness in tones, even when I was on the telephone; she knew I was not taking my allergy medication merely by my voice. She, somehow knew everything about me. Now, I, as a Mother, a Single Mother know my own Mother's struggles. The one thing that she never wanted for me is for me to struggle as she did in her life. Well, here I am, Mom! At least I am not sleeping in a BART bathroom like Will Smith and his son in the famed movie, "The Pursuit of Happiness." It is truly amazing the grace that has refueled my life today, in simply regaining a sliver of my own Independence again in my life.I am not certain when my life truly began, when I was set free of the toxic bondage's in my life; it may be right now, with you, here today.

Today's writing tip from Meg Collins

No matter what the mood you may be in today, writer's block does not exist; we as writer's, always have something to say and it has been said that writer's are much healthier than non-writers in the world. 


Make it a point to write something every single day, for your words have an effect on many people's lives, including my life! Namaste*


Sincerely,


Meg Collins
beachermeg@gmail.com
megcollins9@twitter.com
Host on Page Turners with Red River Radio BTR
Author/Editor/Ghostwriter/Poet/Novelist
Interviews can be found on itunes and on Utube 
My books can be purchased on Amazon.com--
"Twinkle, Twinkle Starry Sky, " and, "My Magnum Opus." 
Partial proceeds of all books purchased go to cancer research.

The Train to Somewhere by Meg Collins

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/rrradio/2011/08/19/page-turners-with-hosts-meg-collins-and-nancy-duci-denofio

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/rrradio/2011/08/19/page-turners-with-hosts-meg-collins-and-nancy-duci-denofio

The Visitor in Purgatory

http://angiesdiary.com/lifestyle/spirituality/the-visitor-in-purgatory/

When I look back by Meg Collins

http://angiesdiary.com/poetry-and-lyrics/poetic-prose/when-i-look-back/

A Frog and a Toad--writer's block?

Today, before nap time, I was reading my daughter the classic story " Frog and Toad Are Friends."Frog was feeling sick and Toad was asked to read him a story or make up a story while he was resting. Toad was stuck with writers block! He banged his head against a wall, stood on his head paced back and forth on the porch and still, no story for Frog. Frog was like "Have you come up with a story yet?" The answer was no and Toad at that point was so exhausted he asked Frog to get out of bed a tell HIM a story and so he did; he told him the story of all the energy it took him to come up with a non story which then became a story. I feel that this, in fact, proves without a shadow of a doubt, that there is no such thing as writers block my friends!

Writers and artists always have something to say every single day and we are in fact known to be healthier than non-writers--did you know that is a fact? Expression of any form is a release, whatever art you are creating, you are releasing healthy energies out of your body, like you do when you are working out as well. The brain craves the stimulation and the release of everything you are holding onto, so you must have healthy outlets.


My tips for today for all artists and writers are the following: TAKE MY TEN DAY CHALLENGE!

1-If you are not creating your art, step outside of the location you are currently in and go outside under a tree, in take a camera into the forest, make a picnic, go on a nature hike or walk, observe a sunrise or a sunset.
My point--change your scenery location! If you write in the kitchen and it is not working, try something new today.

2-Network with other artists in your genre today.
Make it a point to meet someone new in your field every single day for inspiration and connect with them regularly.

3-Get involved in groups
If you are not in at least FIVE different networking groups, start today folks. Networking is key for any business. Choose your network and circle of friends wisely, because in the end, you are who you hang out with, correct?

4-Step outside your comfort zone today and have some fun with you art and/or writing.

5-Blog, twitter, google, facebook, branchout, groups, radio shows, chatrooms--these are mandatory for all artists. Get yourself a bit more involved today--I dare you to and come back and email me at beachermeg@gmail.com or post on my blog and let me know the results and your findings.

Have a productive day today!

Meg Collins
Author/Radio Host/Editor/Ghostwriter
beachermeg@gmail.com
megcollins9@twitter.com
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